oneLife doesn’t always go the way we plan.  Over the last few years I have experienced something that never in my wildest imagination thought I would go through.  Divorce is a killer and God hates it, but it’s a tragic reality that is in epidemic proportions in the world.  The stats say that 1 in every 2 marriages ends in divorce and 75% of second marriages end in divorce.

It has only been of recent times that I have been able to speak openly about my situation and how I have been able to dig and scrape myself out of the deep hole of rejection and pain that was brought about by divorce.  There is no other description that I can think of that can describe the immense emotional trauma that divorce brings into your life.

Children are the ones that suffer the most and the lawyers are the only people that gain from this destructive and devastating, demonic attack on our families.

I have a few brief suggestions on how I was able to overcome and get through.  I don’t think you can ever get over it completely but you certainly learn to live with it and in my situation God has given me an incredible wife that understands and loves me.  Kylie has shown unconditional love and companionship throughout this journey. 

Everything starts and ends in your thinking.

The bible says to cast down imaginations.  Bring into captivity every thought. Renew your mind daily. It is easier said than done but very possible in God.

1) Control. 

Control your mind and how you think so that you can interpret the situation and respond effectively to the crisis.  A crisis will reveal the true leadership and character in you.  True leadership plans and manages and does not lose control.  We are given the Holy Spirit to guide us and grow us – the fruit of the Spirit includes self control!

2) Opportunity.

Crisis is an opportunity to draw on potential. No matter what it happening, see it as an opportunity not the end of the world.  God gives us opportunities to grow, to overcome and succeed.  In short, He gives us the opportunity to become like Him and draw on His divine strength in every situation.  In this, He is glorified!

3) Perception.

Controlled perception is not denial, but how you think about your circumstance!  Rise above your circumstances.  Don’t allow your thoughts to become ‘victim’ in nature and a product of your circumstances, but control your thoughts so that you become self-controlled and maintain a positive outlook and attitude no matter what is happening in your life. (Don’t allow your thoughts to spiral downwards, take on the mind of Christ.)

There is no quick fix to anything.  But, give yourself time and remember your response to the situation is what matters.  Pick yourself up, give yourself a treat, shake of the self pity, look the crisis in the eye and say…”Today is going to be a better day”, “I will get through this”, “The sun will shine again”. 

Remember, every day is a better day and the best is yet to come!  Christ in me the hope of glory!

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