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Being vs Doing!

IMG_1290Living in victory each day is being!

Walking in the light of His love and acceptance is liberating only if you know His truth and know this truth in your heart.

We tend to do and do and do and then do more!  Rather, we need to acknowledge that we are who we are and that’s how God made us.

Simply be.  “Be.”

We are made in His image, growing from glory to glory, faith to faith.

Being is relaxing in who God says you are…

Not trying to be something or someone that we are not.

God says that His “mercy is new every morning” – it’s a new day, a fresh start, a new beginning and therefore we are to live today as if it is the first day of our lives.

Contentment is the key to being.  Doing represents running around, stress, deadlines, etc.

Don’t allow small things to be blown out of proportion and become more important than they need.

Think about it – in 1 week, will it still be this urgent or this important?  If not, then relax a little more and give people around you a break!  They’re probably feeling the brunt of your stress and frustration.

Being is plodding along vibrantly or relaxing for easy power.

My encouragement is for you to declutter your life.

Keep the main thing, the main thing!

Enjoy the journey of life and learn to stop and smell the roses.

Inhale and then exhale.

Slowly.

Get the full benefit of the scent, not just a whif.

Jesus said, “Come to me, all you who are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”

His rest will create our best.

PC300052And so it had begun.  We were married!  The beginning of the rest of our lives was right there in front of us…not in the distance, but right there and we were walking into it!

Kyls had spent weeks researching the perfect spot for us to have our honeymoon…all 2 days of it!  Kylie had to go straight back to work so we wanted something that would be secluded, quiet, beautiful and cosy.  We had found a lovely little eco lodge on a bluff in the Coffin Bay area that was nestled on 100 acres.  It was far from anyone and serene enough to meet our needs for the weekend.

We arrived at the lovely little lodge to discover that the man who owned the place actually had a house on there too.  And, not just on the same property, but his house was under the extension that he had built as his eco lodge…THAT WE WERE STAYING IN!!!!

To make matters even funnier, it just so happened that his bedroom happened to be directly under our bedroom and living area.  Nice.

Such a friendly host, the poor gentleman didn’t quite get any of Kyls’s hints that it was our honeymoon…he just kept coming back to visit with us!  He was such a talkative chap, it was difficult to get a word in and make our point clear.

HONEYMOON.

NEWLYWEDS.

SECLUSION.

2 DAYS.

NO PEOPLE.

Nope.  Didn’t work!  The lovely man thought that we might be hungry and so he, generously and kindly, brought us up 2 bowls of delicious, fresh, homemade mushroom soup, with mushrooms that he had picked that morning from the paddocks around the house, and hot, crusty bread.  It really was great, but we really did just want some space and time to ourselves.  Surely, that was understandable!

The space was nice…there was a small living/dining/kitchen area, kind of like a cabin in a holiday park, a nice bedroom and an open bathroon with 270 degree windows….great view…if it was as secluded as we had thought!

Kyls decided that since it was so cold and since we’d not really had the opportunity to have a proper shower at the hotel (they gave us no clean towels..go figure!) she would shower now…especially since it seemed that the friendly host had finally left us in peace.

Showered and dry from a just warm shower, just like most girls, Kyls needed to dry her hair…out came the hair dryer and out went the power.  We were discovering fast that our perfect little eco lodge really meant – little power, low temperature heating and housing below!

Somehow, from out of nowhere, our friend, the chatting host, appeared!  He informed us that a hair dryer used too much power and so, with the weather having been so overcast recently the solar panels weren’t fully charged.  Ergo, we didn’t have very hot water and we had a limited power supply!  No more hairdryer for Kyls!

What a funny start to our marriage and honeymoon!

Over the two days, we enjoyed creative meals (we had very limited supplies and the closest shops was 1 hour away – and it was closed because it was a public holiday!), spurts of time with no power and lengths of timw with power.  Fortunately, Kyls had brought with us all of the candle that were left over from the wedding which meant that at night time, we at least had some light.

The gas heater was fan forced and so relied on the electricity that did and didn’t work.  Our laptop was our source of music, running on battery power.  Our little sink was our washing tub and the line downstairs, near the hosts room, was our washing line!  Our lovely wooden posted bed made more sounds than an old door in a scary movie…and that was just when we walked in the room!  The balcony, however, had a sensational view. It overlooked a peaceful little bay and early in the mornings we heard and saw native birds on the rails.  It was very romantic when we thought about it!

We figured that God was just exercsing His sense of humour and extending ours…we had to laugh or we could have been devastated.  But, Kyls being Kyls, made every moment fun and enjoyable.  We had a great time together (in spite of the power going off more that 7 times (I think) in 2 1/2 days!  We were able to appreciate and enjoy the solitude (eventually) and each other for a few precious moments before we came back to full time reality!

When we finally did arrive home, we walked in to a beautifully clean and inviting house.  Friends had organised a beautiful meal and there were more gifts to open.  Kyls unpacked…in our house…her house.

We were married.  We were one.  We were together, in our own home, delightfully happy and content.  At last.

Thank God.  Kylie’s Psalm, her word from God had finally come to pass for both of us…

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.  Psalm 37:4

PC150032What do you do when you feel that life has all but passed you by and that all your hopes and dreams seem to have been both stolen or denied based on other peoples choices?

You keep the faith.  You look to the One who called you by name and knows your future and your every tear.  You remind yourself that there is a better day coming even though the storm clouds look darker than the night sky.  You call to mind the promises that God has given – both in His Word and in your personal walk with Him.

It’s no secret that the biggest tragedy of my life occurred just a few short years ago.  My life was suddenly turned upside down and tragically almost everything that I thought was solid in my life, everything that I held dear was ripped out from under me.  Opinions were created and manipulated by people who had a San Ballat spirit. 

I was at a place in my life where I thought that I would never again see the blessings of God in a way that I had seen and had imagined. 

After the move from my previous church, I worked in the fashion industry for some time all the while knowing that God had called me and anointed me for the ministry.  I was, all of a sudden, in a place that meant I had to put into practice many of the lessons and principles that I had preached over many years.  I had to determine in my heart if I was going to trust God with all that I had left and be totally surrendered to Him and His mercy or if I was going to be like so many others and just call the shots myself. 

I chose to do the former.  I chose to put myself into the hands of my loving Heavenly Father and I chose to believe that as I stepped out in faith He would not only pave the way for me, but that He would provide all that He had promised. 

In my willingness to simply serve God and do whatever my hands found to do, I was offered a job driving a truck of thoroughbred horses across the country.  For a man who loves horses, this seemed like a great opportunity.  That was until I had my lessons!  In spite of all my efforts, it became obvious that truck driving was not going to be for me. 

It was during this time that I received a call from the Executive of the South Australian AOG.  They invited me to take on a 6 month interim position at a church in Whyalla (where is Whyalla? I thought!).  In my spirit I felt God quietly, yet distinctly, say to me, “Ted, I wanted to see if you would be willing even to drive trucks for me”.  What an incredibly humbling and exciting revelation.

I found that Whyalla was not only 4 hours from Adelaide but that it was also classed as a desert space!  I was moving from the lush Brisbane lifestyle with my family to the dusty country outback where I knew not a soul.  What on earth was I doing and more to the point, what on earth was God doing?

I moved to Whyalla and my Dad joined me for the first few weeks (I needed someone to talk to!).  Within a few days I was overwhelmed with the realisation of the decision and the move that I had made.  I had not only left a beautiful place, but I had left all that I knew, all who had supported me and encouraged and loved me through my darkest hours.  I had also left behind my most treasured possessions – my boys, Kristan and Harry. 

This affected me dramatically, but my strength, as always, was found in God.  I spent many hours walking and praying and crying out to God, seeking His purpose for bringing me to this seemingly deserted and isolated place.  Very soon I was to discover that God indeed had a plan so much greater and sweeter than I could have ever imagined. 

I had met Kylie when I first arrived in Whyalla – she had set up the house that I was to live in and was partly responsible for bringing me to Whyalla as she was on the church Board.  After a few weeks of watching and listening, I asked her out for coffee.  She went on school camp and we spent the three days texting and getting to know each other.

When she returned, we did go out for coffee.  I told her all of the reasons as to why she should not be interested in me and laid out very clearly all the reasons why we should not pursue a friendship.  I was divorced.  I had 2 children.  I was bald.  I was 42.  I was a minister.  To each thing that I listed, she calmly smiled and told me that none of it was going to sway her from what God had spoken to her heart – I was the man that she had waited for – “the man that God would bring through the doors of a church”.

I was supposed to be in Whyalla for 6 months.  4 weeks into this, Kylie and I were developing a deep friendship and a growing respect.  I had not only fallen in love with Whyalla and the people, but I had fallen in love with a short, brown haired girl with a big smile and a huge love for Jesus. 

I had a miracle from God.  A bitter sweet miracle.  Bitter in that I missed my boys (and still do) terribly.  Sweet in that I had found a woman of character and strength who believes that her purpose is to love me – my soul mate.  That, knowing what I’ve been though, is a miracle of great magnitude.

“For I know the plans I have for you”, says the Lord.  “Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”

It’s not easy, but it is real and it is true.  God knows.  God cares.  God is faithful.

Is Your Head On Right?

My TedIS YOUR HEAD ON RIGHT? (Helping people help themselves)

Why do people get messed up with false doctrines, conspiracies, and end up confused and distracted in their faith?

It deeply saddens me and it concerns me greatly when good people are thrown off course.  Well meaning saints of God who have potential beyond their own understanding sabotage their future by silly thought patterns, ideas and beliefs they form from unreliable sources.  People take in the spin of others rather than the word of God in its true context being the foundation of their life.  People not under authority, not submitted!  People submitted means that they are SUPPORTIVE STRENGTH UNDER LEADERSHIP!

Some people are not accountable, doing their own thing, their own way.  These people God cannot use because they cannot be harnessed.  They have talents and abilities but unless you can pass the test of submission, they are just like a lightning bolt across the sky.

– Whatever they touch blows up.

– It explodes

– It sets on fire.

These people cannot be used for anything because their power is out of control!

People need a voltage regulator!

In my own experience there’s a frustration of wanting to reach out and help but knowing that my help will fall on deaf ears as people continue to do as people do.  And so the cycle goes on and on.  Crisis after crisis!

I want to give you signs of a person with their head on God’s way.

  1. They accept responsibility for their own behaviour and learn from failures.  They don’t repeat past errors (or repeat them easily).
  2. Are pleased to receive constructive criticism and are sincerely glad to have the opportunity to improve.
  3. Don’t expect special treatment.
  4. Meet emergencies and crisis with poise.
  5. Are not impatient with reasonable delays.  Realizes that the world runs to its own pace.  Expects to have to make reasonable compromise.
  6. Wins without gloating.  Endures defeat and disappointment with grace.  Tries to learn from every loss.
  7. Harbours no jealousy.  Are sincerely pleased for others when they enjoy good success.
  8. Are considerate of the feelings and options of others.  Are careful listeners.  Don’t become defensive, close-minded, and argumentative when discussing opinions.
  9. Plans for the future, rather than trusting the information of the moment.

Through right decisions and responses to scripture a pillar person becomes faithful and are vital parts of the house of God.

They are:

  1. Born Again.
  2. Water Baptised.
  3. Filled with the Holy Spirit.
  4. Faithful to corporate church gatherings.
  5. Faithful to connect groups.
  6. Joyfully give their tithes.
  7. Love to pray and worship God.
  8. Have a heart for winning their city to Christ.
  9. Vision for world missions
  10. Commitment to uphold family values
  11. Love for God that is expressed through all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, all your strength EVERYTHING!

This is what I believe makes up a mature Christian.  This is the person that will be sustained and successful in life.  Not confused, not distracted, and not taken up by sensationalism.  A person with their head TWISTED ON RIGHT!

oneLife doesn’t always go the way we plan.  Over the last few years I have experienced something that never in my wildest imagination thought I would go through.  Divorce is a killer and God hates it, but it’s a tragic reality that is in epidemic proportions in the world.  The stats say that 1 in every 2 marriages ends in divorce and 75% of second marriages end in divorce.

It has only been of recent times that I have been able to speak openly about my situation and how I have been able to dig and scrape myself out of the deep hole of rejection and pain that was brought about by divorce.  There is no other description that I can think of that can describe the immense emotional trauma that divorce brings into your life.

Children are the ones that suffer the most and the lawyers are the only people that gain from this destructive and devastating, demonic attack on our families.

I have a few brief suggestions on how I was able to overcome and get through.  I don’t think you can ever get over it completely but you certainly learn to live with it and in my situation God has given me an incredible wife that understands and loves me.  Kylie has shown unconditional love and companionship throughout this journey. 

Everything starts and ends in your thinking.

The bible says to cast down imaginations.  Bring into captivity every thought. Renew your mind daily. It is easier said than done but very possible in God.

1) Control. 

Control your mind and how you think so that you can interpret the situation and respond effectively to the crisis.  A crisis will reveal the true leadership and character in you.  True leadership plans and manages and does not lose control.  We are given the Holy Spirit to guide us and grow us – the fruit of the Spirit includes self control!

2) Opportunity.

Crisis is an opportunity to draw on potential. No matter what it happening, see it as an opportunity not the end of the world.  God gives us opportunities to grow, to overcome and succeed.  In short, He gives us the opportunity to become like Him and draw on His divine strength in every situation.  In this, He is glorified!

3) Perception.

Controlled perception is not denial, but how you think about your circumstance!  Rise above your circumstances.  Don’t allow your thoughts to become ‘victim’ in nature and a product of your circumstances, but control your thoughts so that you become self-controlled and maintain a positive outlook and attitude no matter what is happening in your life. (Don’t allow your thoughts to spiral downwards, take on the mind of Christ.)

There is no quick fix to anything.  But, give yourself time and remember your response to the situation is what matters.  Pick yourself up, give yourself a treat, shake of the self pity, look the crisis in the eye and say…”Today is going to be a better day”, “I will get through this”, “The sun will shine again”. 

Remember, every day is a better day and the best is yet to come!  Christ in me the hope of glory!