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Joel 2:25 – “I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—the great locust and the young locust, the other locusts and the locust swarm my great army that I sent among you.”

The word of God promises to restore the years the enemy has stolen.  Each one of us has a significant destiny, a glorious future in God.  The devils only objective is to sabotage our purpose and meaning but we’ve got to dare to believe again.

We have God given dreams and aspirations.  I find that when we live in those things we are the happiest and most content.  When we are fulfilling God’s plans in our life we have a sense of wholeness.  It completes us.   “Restore” means to bring back to existence, to multiply, double, to increase to more than ever before.  He is a restoring God and He does it incredibly well if you trust Him.

When we are dealt a curve ball and our life is shattered by a particular event, person or circumstance then what do we do? We crumble and fall, but then we must pick ourselves up.  The restoring power of God is at our call.  It is the resources of heaven available to us as we reach out to Him.

1. God’s restoring power is in the pages of His word.

There’s no better blue print for living than God’s word.  His principles work every time and He encourages us as we read His word every day.  Galatians 1:6 – “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should RESTORE him gently… “carry each other’s burdens and in this way you will fulfil the law of Christ.”

2. God’s restoring power is in your belief.  It’s faith.

Trusting in God requires faith.   “Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things yet unseen.”  It’s a grind and sometimes just plain difficult, but as you take little steps, day by day moving forward, you can begin to achieve what was thought to be impossible.

3. People can help you restore your life.

Some people are not interested and would be happier if you didn’t rise up to anything.  Some people are too busy and others don’t know how to or what to do.  Movements, leaders, pastors are called to restore,  but usually just ordinary people are the restorers.

It’s nice when someone puts their arm around one who is struggling and says, come on let’s do this journey together.   I believe it is our responsibility, our mandate to come along side broken, smashed up people and lift them up to a new day, a new way.  We must restore people!  It takes time and effort, but the results are those of a saved life.  A restored soul!  People might call it sloppy grace, but what you’ve done will not prevent me from showing mercy, grace, acceptance.  I will endeavour to lift you, encourage you and strengthen you out of the pit of despair and into the loving arms of Christ.

4. The greatest restorer is Jesus!

That’s why we call Him our Saviour.  He saves, restores, and makes us whole again.  He forgives and forgets. We have to get that one truth in our head. He forgives and forgets.  He is the healer of the broken hearted. Allow Him to take control!  Watch as God’s restoring power works in and through people’s lives – you will be moved and amazed at what He does.  What the devil made for evil, God will turn around and make for good.
Amen!

Remember forgiveness is not something we do for other people we do it for ourselves to get well and move on!
Restoration is about getting well and moving forward!
Failure is not final
He’s the God of the second chance!

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Ted EvansPsalm 139:14

I praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…

Jeremiah 1:5

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.

2 Corinthians 4:18

So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord.  And the Lord–who is the Spirit–makes us more and more like Him as we are changed into His glorious image.

I have been known to God since before my conception!  The same with you!

Every one of my days has been accounted for and seen by God – He knows me and has known me.

He created me – fearfully and wonderfully, to become glorious for Him.

The things in our lives, people, places, encounters with God and circumstances shape us.  Ultimately, though, who we are was determined before we were born.

There have been many situations, ups and downs , hurts and joys, successes and disappointments, in my life that have caused me to grow into and become the person that I am today.

Because of the circumstances of life in the past few years, I’ve heard it said of me:

“Ted is more understanding of people and more compassionate.”

“He’s less judgmental.”

I can agree with those statements as often there are things that we don’t fully comprehend the pain or the joy of unless we have been there ourselves.

I am more understanding.

I am more compassionate.

I am less judgemental.

I can identify with peoples brokenness.
I am more tolerant.

The thing is, this should be the case with all of us.  As we grow to become more like Christ, our lives and our attitudes should reflect that of Christ Jesus.

At the same time, as a result of what I have been through and what I have seen, there have been some other changes too.

I have little tolerance with manipulative, wishy washy, weak willed Christians that try to pull the wool over people’s eyes.

That may sound anything like what I have just previously said, but, hear me out.

I have become more loving and tougher at the same time.

I’ve become a stronger person and more decisive as a leader, knowing precisely what I want and what I want to achieve.

I have learned to rely on God when He is all I have and then at that moment, I have discovered that He’s all I need.

I have learned that tough times will either catapult you to God and to strength or you’ll go the other way displaying a victim mentality and weakness in your personality and character.

This type of weakness and victim mentality is always blame shifting!

It is always self focussed and ‘poor me’ in nature.
As a leader I have a low tolerance for bad attitudes, and the cavalier living of some so called Christians.

Jesus suffered and that’s putting it mildly in anyone’s estimations.

He was battered and bruised, He was beaten and bloodied, He was accused and taunted.

And for what?  For us.

And what was His response?

They led Him like a lamb to the slaughter…He was innocent and didn’t cry out for a pity party or pass the buck to anyone walking past.

He didn’t call out, “It wasn’t me!  It was Judas, he’s lying!”

He didn’t throw a tantrum.

He didn’t have a hissy fit.

He didn’t go around bad mouthing and slandering people and making up accusations.

No.

He went through it all and because of that He knows, He understands and He loves all the same.
I know what’s it’s like to be betrayed.
I know what it’s like to have people be disloyal to you.
I know what’s it’s like to be in deep depression and think suicidal thoughts.
I know the feeling of abandonment and what it’s like to be abandoned.
I know what emotional, physical and mental abuse feels like.
I know what’s it’s like to back slide and be spiritually empty.

I know what it’s like to be slandered and lied about.

I know what it’s like to be misjudged, misquoted, misinterpreted, perceived wrongly, and accused unjustly.

I know what loss is.
I know what it’s like to be emotionally, financially and physically bankrupt.
But, I know what repentance is!
I know what forgiveness is!
I now know God’s restorative power.
I now know His peace!

Love, forgiveness and acceptance.
These things are mine!

I know His grace!
I know how to pull myself out of the pits with God’s help.

I know how to lean on Jesus and how to keep my focus on Him.

I know how to depend on God – a strong fortress in times of trouble.

This is not me having a pity party or a poor me self expression time.

This is me, sharing with you, recognising how God has worked in and through my life and how He is causing me to be more like Him.

He didn’t stand for the Pharisees or the Sadducees of the day.

He didn’t take kindly to bad behaviour – but He did love and He did correct.

That’s what I’ve learned how to do better as a result of my experiences.
I think I now make a more understanding and capable pastor of people.
I’ve been there and can help others to come through their own life’s challenges.

I’ve not just come through, but I gained a life style of victory over self, sin and the world.

I have gained a stronger relationship with Jesus and learned that He is my source and my strength.

I have learned, and am continuing to learn, how to be content and how to trust in God with all that I have and all that I am.

Hunger and thirst after righteousness!

2 Peter 1:3-4

His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.

Hunger and thirst after righteousness!

Jesus said in Matthew 5:6 that those who HUNGER AND THIRST AFTER RIGHTEOUSNESS SHALL BE FILLED!!!

God promises a in-filling beyond your dreams.

What does righteousness look like?
– right living
– living Gods way
– doing God things
– dying to self/John said I must decrease!

Less of me my wants, my desires.
– dying to the flesh/lusts of the flesh
– dying to the world and it’s system
– being right with man
– having no offences
As a deer pants for the waters, so my soul longs after You!
Paul says I want to know him!
-Paul was stoned
– Paul was ship wrecked
– Paul was chained, beaten and bruised gaoled
It’s NOT a feel good gospel!
It’s NOT your “Best Life Now!”
It’s NOT “Get a life!”
It’s he who want a life must loss his life!

For Gods sake!

When you’re in a battle!
When you’re in a storm!
When your buffeted!
When your backs against the wall!
When you’re misquoted!
When you’re misinterpreted!
When you’re judged wrongly!
When all matter of evil is thrown at you what do you do?
Can you say “having done all stand!
Those that can be shaken will be shaken!

How’s your appetite for God?
What sort of Christian are you?
– do you love the house of God?
– do you read your bible?
– are you a worshippers?
– are you a giver or a taker?
– do you tithe to the Lords house?
– what are your convictions?
– are you wishy washy in your faith?

We must realise that Christianity will never be a friend of this world.

Christianity holds out the only arm of salvation to this world.

Christians and the world will never be friends.

Christianity will never cross over but demands that the world cross over.

The Bible says what so ever things are pure, lovely and of good report think on these things!

Fill your mind with wholesome, up right and God inspired things.
Bring everything captive!
Bring every thought captive!
Bring everything into the obedience of Christ!

Carnal thoughts or stinking thinking will bring you down!
It destroys people.
It will sabotage your future.
It will cut you off from God’s best.
– some of you think yourself into being sick
– you’re always sick
– hypochondriacs
– why don’t you start to trust God with your life?
– God’s trying to shape you and mould you.

BEING FILLED WITH THE SPIRIT!!!!!!
Who wants to be filled with the Holy Spirt?
He has anointed me to preach.
To be “filled” means to be overflowing with the divine nature, character and life of Christ.
Having ALL of Him in you.
When you’ve got Him you’ve got His will purpose and understanding operating in your life.
“No longer I that lives but Christ that lives in me!”
“I am crucified with Christ”
More of you Jesus!!!!!!

I encourage you, pursue righteousness.

You may have to make a stand against the status quo, but at the end of the day, who are you wanting to please and be led by?

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they will be filled.

Ted, Kristan and Harry EvansJeremiah 29:11

There are certain things I look at in people’s lives to encourage them.  Firstly we should acknowledge the good things that God has done.  Don’t dwell on the negative.  There’s too many of those!  See how God has been working in your life through people and circumstances.  Remember God is shaping and moulding us into His image.  The company you keep is important in shaping your mindsets.  If you don’t have a friend, be friendly the Bible says.

A selfish person will not acknowledge good in themselves or in others.  Everything is “whatever”.  The “whatever” culture and attitude is so prevalent in people today that it’s destroying hope for a future.

If you’re young, see your youth as being a blessing.  You have your whole life ahead of you.  If you are studying and others seem so far in front in their chosen career, remember this is a preparation time.  You are in a season of building your foundation.  Planning and studying is essential.  Remember, “You’ll have your day in the sun”.  Your time is coming so study to show yourself approved.

If you’re old and consider yourself a senior, thank God for the experiences, whether positive or negative.  The experiences you’ve had can help people as you offer yourself as support and encouragement.  Life’s journey is a gift to help others in giving people wisdom they desperately need.  This wisdom can be shared.  You can provide people with guide lines and instruction to assist them from making the same mistakes you made in life.  See everything as an opportunity for good.

There are so many ways we read our lives.  The perception of how we are going sometimes gets clouded and we need another viewpoint.  Maybe a close friend can bring home some positive truths about our lives.  Talk to a pastor with a sensitivity to your situation.

Pick yourself up and believe the simple truth that God is a good God and gives good gifts.  Trust Him with your future.  Never give up and remember God loves you and has you’re best interest at heart.

In my darkest hours I held onto what I knew was right.  My convictions and values made me stay the course.  Even though there were a few hick ups along the way, I kept going to church.  I lifted my hands in worship even though I didn’t feel a thing.  I prayed even though it felt like the heavens were like brass.  My attitude was taken from the scriptural principle that says “Put on the garment of praise for a spirit of heaviness”, “Though the fig tree does not blossom, yet will I rejoice in the Lord”, “I will” rejoice in the Lord and AGAIN I will rejoice!”

Keeping the consistencies in life was so important to me in the hard times.  Don’t run from your circumstances.  Don’t look for the bottle, drugs or the easy way out.  Face the issues and slowly pull yourself out.  Get help!  Talk to someone and pray.  Step by step, one thing and one day at a time.  Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day!

In many lives decisions have been made without counsel and research is the last avenue most go down.  Most people have made their minds up.  God hasn’t been consulted.  Pastors’ advice is not sought after and when all is said and done the pastor somewhere along the road has to pick up the pieces.

It saddens me to see people struggle and in many cases have their destiny cut short. For some, isolation subtly becomes a reality and a way of life.  Often church attendance drops away and we forget…WE NEED EACH OTHER!  If we keep to the fellowship of the believers, consistent and continual, it will keep many from falling.

Be a giver not a taker.  Faith gives when reason would say to hold on to everything you can get.  The mindset “everybody owes me something” is wrong and very selfish thinking in its nature.  The church owes me; the school should be doing this and that, the pastor should be visiting me.  People that flounder in depression are people that stay in a place of “it’s all about me”!  I, ME instead of OTHERS, and WE!  When we put in and give, we live more fulfilled and enriched lives.

Help someone, serve in the church.  Give of your time and resource.  Live for God and others.  Bake a cake, write a card, send a gift, a word of life to a struggling person.  Fill yourself up, by pouring out.  David encouraged himself in the Lord.

Sometimes the very things that we are doing are the things that will ultimately destroy us and our family.  Our selfishness leads to unhappiness.  We pursue things, careers and life style.  No one wins and God is not glorified.  Giving people are loved people.  Giving people are happy people.  Giving people are satisfied.  Giving people don’t live for themselves.  God first!  We’ve got to do things God’s way to get God results.  The true and best pattern is God’s pattern – everything else ends up in disappointment.  Live for Jesus and the things of this world will grow strangely dim.

Don’t sit helplessly in “camp containment” put on your armour, pick up your weapons and boot Satan out of your life.  The measure of your containment is directly related to how Christlike or un-Christlike you are in your daily responses to the people, events, and circumstances of life.

Let Christ be your standard in a world as busy and involved as it is.  People are bored and empty because they have devoted themselves and their lives to things that ultimately lack meaning and purpose.  The only way to fulfil your destiny is to take the first step and then next step and the next … as God leads.

Ps Ted and Kylie EvansHave you ever thought about the way that you walk?

I mean, have you considered what your feet are doing?

What your head is doing?

What your hands and arms are doing?

What about your knees and every other part of your body?

Have you ever stopped to think that the rest of your body simply follows the lead of your mind?

Your feet don’t have a mind of their own, and nor do your legs.

Your hands don’t give direction and even though your head might be looking in a different direction, it still doesn’t change your course.

Your internal organs don’t override your brain and the signals that are sent through to your feet.

It’s the same in our lives.

As the body of Christ, we should follow the mind of Christ.

Our obedience, our ability to follow His direction, should come out of a heart desire to love and serve Him.

Jesus is the head of the church, the head of the body.

We make up the rest of His body.

So, just like in our own bodies, we should, as the members of His body, follow what He tells us and what He calls us to do.

And, what does He call us to do?

Where does He lead us?

He leads us in the path of righteousness!

We are to love each other, to honour each other, not to think more highly of ourselves than we ought.

We are to encourage each other, we are to build each other up in the most holy faith.

We are to follow Jesus and obey His commands.

We are to be changed from glory to glory!

We are to know the truth and walk in the light!

Above all, we are to love Jesus.

If we love Him, above all and above ourselves, we will walk differently.

We will think differently about what we do and how we do it.

We will talk differently.

Walking with Jesus and walking in His truth and in His love, means that we treat people with dignity.

We treat people with love, respect, care and specifically, we treat them the way that we want to be treated.

Are you walking in a way that someone else would be eager to follow or would people be running in the opposite direction?

This week, think about how you walk.

Think about where you are going and who you are following to get there.

Think about who is following you and how you are leading them.

Love Jesus and follow Him!

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your path.

Ted EvansThe world is searching for happiness! People quit their secure jobs, leave their spouse and are constantly unsettled because of this search for so-called happiness.

I know of people who have spent the majority of their married life trying to please their partner, going along with every whim so as to see them content in what they desired.

I have seen husbands try to take leadership of the home to no avail because of a domineering wife pursuing her so called happiness (and vice versa).

I have seen couples break up and when asked why, the immediate answer was because, “I’m not Happy”, “I don’t love him anymore”, the latest phrase is, “He abused me.”

Well, who is happy anyway….all the time, I say?

Another question:

What is marriage?

Is it all about being happy?

Is that the criteria?

Is that the goal?

Is that why you married that person?

If all your ducks don’t line up does that mean all is lost?  Do you fantasise about someone else? Trade him/her in for a new model!  Maybe a rich millionaire will show me the world and give me the happiness I’m longing for!

After much soul searching and many deep personal experiences I have come to a very basic conclusion.  Life isn’t about being happy.  The bible talks about contentment, and joy.  Happiness is fleeting but joy is lasting.  To me it’s all about commitment and perseverance!  Overcoming obstacles together!

I believe so many worldly and demonic practises have been employed in Christendom.  We see so much ungodliness and it’s certainly not a spiritual thought pattern or process.  The bible doesn’t even come into play anymore, it seems.

Some people are so intelligent that they know absolutely nothing.  Ignorance is portrayed in their behaviour.  I’m sorry, you can tell me one thing but your action is telling me something else.  You can tell me you love God and put Him first but what you are doing each day says something completely different.  I guess the bible says it this way, “You judge them by their fruit.”  Time will tell, I say!

Let me write something to describe some wrong thinking.  Ultimately wrong thinking becomes wrong behaviour.  Wrong choices and heart breaking disappointments soon follow wrong behaviour.

Some calls it Relativism, meaning no absolute truth.  Rampant in the church of Jesus Christ!

Subjectivism

Rationalism

Post modernism, meaning there is no real truth

New age religion

Experimenting (The devil said to Eve…go on Eve, take it! Try it!

These and more describe what is going on in people’s lives, and in their thinking each day of the year.  Most times without them knowing these thought patterns are there, but the person doesn’t realize they are.

We have moved so far from biblical truth, the absolutes of the bible and then grapple with distorted truth and make excuses daily to explain ourselves away.

The truth is: Happiness comes out of being content.  The overflow or outcome of joy is a happy lifestyle and a person who is at peace with themselves, God and others. Joy=happiness.  Happiness is existential.  Joy is internal, from your spirit man.  Joy is a deep gratitude of the saving grace and forgiveness that Jesus gave through His death and resurrection.

I am filled with inner joy and peace because of my deep and real relationship with Jesus Christ.  This covers every sin committed past, present and future.  Sin will always have devastating effect on any human being, ultimately death, but because of His forgiveness I walk in complete joy, peace and happiness.

I reiterate happiness is not the goal.  Happiness is shallow.  Happiness can be a selfish pursuit never really being fulfilled.

Many people walk in hurt and bitterness which is the basis of selfishness.  Not getting what you want, maybe unmet expectations, leading to disappointment, hurt, offense and then bitterness.  The final result of uncontrolled bitterness is demon possession.

A self-indulgent, impure spirit has it basis in a self-indulgent life style.  Gimme!   Gimme!  Gimme!  Husbands are working excessive hours to provide the lifestyle and things that their wives are lusting for.  Only a few years after they have all the wants and desire they run off and take everything that has been worked for over many years leaving their partner desolate and confused to say the least.

Disloyally is rampant, some overt and some very subtle but it all stems from an independent spirit developed over many years.  This is the characteristic of an unhappy and ungodly person sometimes claiming righteousness but deep within the pages of their life is a chronic and devastating disorder.

Ungratefulness is in epidemic proportions to the point that people cannot keep up or fulfil their need for more and more.  The basis of ungratefulness is pride.  If you follow the path of pride in your life it will definitely lead to a basis of fear.

The bible says, God has not given us a spirit of fear but of love power and a sound mind.  Now, that sounds like, JOY.  That sounds like a happy person.  Love, power and a sound mind!  Content and fulfilled in every way!

When you walk the road of dishonesty and cultivate a poverty spirit, you can become extremely lazy and unproductive.

Self righteousness comes from a person who condemns themselves, beats themselves up but also condemns and judges others.  Constantly being critical of others!  This is not only a sad person but sadly a destroyed soul.  Outwardly they claim happiness but inwardly they are in turmoil, going from one purchase to another, one food group to another, one fashion store to another and in most cases relationships are severed.  One relationship to another, searching, looking, relentlessly pursuing…but to no avail!  Empty!  Wanting!

Don’t the words of Jesus mean much to us when He says “Take no thought of tomorrow for tomorrow will take care of itself.”   In fact it implies that Jesus attends the funeral of every sparrow that falls to the ground.  “Don’t be anxious!” ”Rejoice in the Lord, and again I say rejoice!

Isaiah says “Don’t eat food, drink and work for that which does not satisfy”.  I believe as we obey the word of God that says “To seek first the Kingdom of God” Everything we need will be provided which ensures us of joy, and happiness.

We are being changed from Glory to Glory!  Being transformed into His likeness!  It takes toughness, strength and fortitude to allow our character to be shaped and moulded into that beautiful and whole person that brings glory to God.  We are the clay, He is the potter!

Friends and horsesYour connections in life are incredibly important to your future, your emotional stability, the line that you travel between success and failure.  The relationships that you subscribe to can either build you up or pull you down.  They can encourage your growth in God or push you towards a mediocre, negative and a critical existence.  The relationships that you foster can tend to run your life!  Sometimes these people can influence you and even overtake healthy decisions.  Our priority should be to encourage each other to make Godly and Kingdom focus decisions.

We need to consider who we spend time with.  Ask yourself – What do you talk about when you get together?  What mindsets are infiltrating your family culture?  Are they God inspired and Christian in their nature?

I have heard a couple of sayings that I find interesting…Birds of a feather flock together! Like minds find other like minds.  This is a positive if the outcome is to love, build and strengthen but extremely harmful and destructive if it is of a critical nature.

The other quote I have heard over the years is “The lowest form of communication is talking about other people!” Why don’t we discuss Kingdom advancement anymore?  Why don’t we talk about reaching lost souls anymore?  Why don’t we discuss the state of our heart, or the love we have for God and our family?  Why don’t we build up the church and find the positives rather than pull the church down and have roast pastor over Sunday lunch.  Look for the good, look for the noble; look for heart intent rather than outcomes, whether good or not so good.

Gossip is a terrible thing.  It’s like a cancer that spreads and takes hold of people.  Biblically it is one of the 7 deadliest sins.  Dissension!  It’s divisive in character.  This is major in importance to me as a Christian wanting to pursue Christ likeness.  I love the passage that encourages us think on such things…what’s so ever thing are pure, lovely, of good report etc think on these things.  As the mind goes, the heart and mouth will follow.  Do not be deceived, the Apostle Paul says, bad company corrupts good character.

I find the start of a new year a great opportunity to make adjustments to our thought life, our speech and our actions.

Hurting people, hurt people! Whole people hunger for a whole and safe community where love abounds and grace is evident in all.

I believe this article will help someone in their Christian walk.  I believe it will shake someone into a fresh approach to their relationships.  Don’t pretend to be a Christian.  Don’t give lip service to your aspirations as a believer.  Don’t call yourself something that you’re not.  Don’t go to church and put on a show if you’re living differently with your speech and attitude during the week.  Many folk are in communication with people who are not in church, are very critical, not submitted, not under any kind of accountability, and are fruitless.  Unrepentant, prideful and arrogant are some words that come to mind in describing these people.  They refuse to seek forgiveness and restoration in any way.

Be careful to allow these people to continue to be a part of your circle of friends.  The word of God says… “Have nothing to do with them.”  They will harm you and your family.  These kinds of people will destroy themselves and their family, any job prospects and sometimes can take a hold of a congregation rendering it unproductive and sick.

On the other hand if they repent the future is amazing.  Productivity, fruitfulness and blessing can be the result.  Safe and healthy relationships and connections should be our pursuit and desire.

The atmosphere of your life is made up of a couple of things.  One very important ingredient is the type of people you spend time with.  Be inspired to search out Godly influences and if need be make the changes in your life as I do mine every day.

The second ingredient is your walk with God.  It’s impossible to have a deep relationship with God and tear down, criticize and speak against the church for which Jesus died.  The closer I get to God the more my life portrays a Christ likeness that is full and rich in Godly character, love, joy and peace, kindness, gentleness, meekness, self control, patience.

There is a place for having people in your life that you are called to reach out to and embrace so as to lead them to Jesus and a transformed life.  However, we should be the ones influencing others in a positive and encouraging manner – we should represent Jesus to everyone that we meet.

Look for the best in each other and keep your relationships healthy!  Remember always, how would you like to be thought of and treated?  Go and do likewise!

God Bless you on your journey!

WHY THE CHURCH?

What is our purpose?

How do we progress forward?

Why does God use the church?

Why did He create the church?

What is the purpose of the church?

Why the church?

Why do you go to church?

Is it because it’s a habit?  A chore?  A choice?  A ritual?  Routine? The better option?

Or is it because you know, deep in your heart, in your spirit, that the church is part of your life and part of your calling?

Do you know that the church is important to God?

More important, in fact, than it is to pastors?

The church is the Bride of Christ!

The church is bigger than you and I, but at the same time, the church is you and I!

We make up the church!

You matter!

When people refer to the church being and doing in the community, we, you and I, should take that personally, because they are referring to us!

They are referring to God’s Bride, to His children!

We are the apple of His eye, the Psalms say.

We are loved and we are the church.

As the church, we have a responsibility and a calling to look after the church.

The church, like us personally, is a living organism.  It is designed to grow and to keep changing.

We are to become more like Christ!

We need to be fed, we need to be watered and we need to give out.

Plants give out oxygen after taking in carbon dioxide.

Think about that – it takes in what is bad and gives out what is good!

That’s what the church should be like!

We should take in what is bad and then give out what is good.

We should be open to repentance and turning from our sin and then walking away in righteousness – the righteousness of Christ which is humble and full of grace.

People should be able to walk into the church filthy and then walk out cleansed by God’s blood and covered with His love.

Why The Church.

Why do we come to church?

Why do we do church?

The church, at large, is bigger than us.

That’s not really difficult to see or understand, however, all too often, we seem to forget that it actually is bigger than our little worlds.

The church is represented by us and millions of others just like us, all across the world.

We represent the church in our community.

Each place we work, each place we visit, every club that we belong, every shop that we enter, every person that we meet see God and the Church in us.

On some days and at sometimes I think that could be quite a sobering thought.

On the other hand, at other times, I can imagine that we represent God and the Church as wonderful ambassadors.

In the community, we, you and I, are the church.

The church is not just when we meet on Sunday’s.

The church, in smaller ways, is when we meet together and is part of who we are.

The original Greek word for church, ecclesia, talked about a gathering of people.

It was originally used to mean the regular assembly of the whole body of citizens in a free city-state, to be “called out”by the herald for the discussion and decision of public business.

Jesus was the first person to use the word ecclesia to mean the church in Matthew 16:18.

It continued to mean the church congregation as the early church began in Acts.

There are different references to the ecclesia, the church, in scripture in the New Testament.

(1.) It is translated “assembly” in the ordinary sense as a group meeting together (Acts 19).

(2.) It refers to the whole body of the redeemed, all those whom the God the Father has given to Christ, the invisible church (Ephesians 5:23, 25, 27, 29; Hebrews 12:23).

(3.) It is a reference to a few Christians gathered together in observing the principles of the gospel, often in peoples homes (Romans 16:5;Colossians 4:15).

(4.) It also refers to all the Christians in a particular city, whether they assembled together in one place or in several places for religious worship.

The disciples in Antioch, that formed several congregations, were known as one church (Acts 13:1); so also we read of the “church of God at Corinth” (1 Corinthians 1:2), “the church at Jerusalem” (Acts 8:1), “the church of Ephesus” (Revelation 2:1), etc.

(5.) And lastly, the whole body of professing Christians throughout the world (1 Corinthians 15:9Galatians 1:13Matthew 16:18) are the church of Christ.

So, why the church?

What is our purpose?

Why did God create the church?

Paul in his later letters has another use of ekklesia peculiar to himself, which may be described as the ideal use.

The church, now, is the body of which Christ is the head

Colossians 1:18

And he is the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.

Ephesians 1:22-23

And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.

It is the vessel through which God’s incredible wisdom and eternal purpose are to be made known not only to all men, but to the principalities and powers in the heavenly places (Ephesians 3:9-11).

The church is the bride of whom He is the heavenly Bridegroom.

Because of His great love, Jesus He gave Himself up, that He might cleanse and sanctify the church and present her, us if you really think about it, to Himself a glorious church, a church without blemish, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing (Ephesians 5:25).
In short, God created the church to be His greatest love – to have constant and uncompromised communion and relationship with her, with us if you like.

So, what is our purpose?

We have, as the church and as individual believers, 4 main purposes.

–        Worship

–        Relationship

–        Fellowship

–        Discipleship

It’s possible to worship God yet not have an actual relationship with Him.

If this sounds a bit backward to you, think about it….

Many people worship things but don’t or can’t have a relationship with them.

People worship money, sport, celebrities, but they don’t have relationships with them.

Our worship should not just be on a Sunday morning or a Sunday night, but it should be a constant, just like breathing.

Our relationship with God should be likewise.

We should desire to be in communion with Him – to hear His voice and to spend time talking with Him.

Notice I didn’t say, talking to Him.

It’s important that our relationship is two way – we talk and we listen.

God speaks in many ways and reading your Bible is one way to know exactly what God says!

Our relationship with God should be continual and growing – changing us as we spend more time with Him and in His presence.

Fellowship is one of the 2 commandments that Jesus gave us – Love God and Love People.

Loving people, loving our neighbour as our selves, is fellowship.

We are called to share together, to encourage each other, to build one another up, to carry each others’ burdens, to love and care for each other.

As part of the body of Christ, we cannot do faith and Christianity as Lone Rangers or solitary islands in the middle of an ocean.

The body relies on each member to work as it was created and to stick together through every situation.

When you get sun burned, your internal organs don’t stop working because they got offended by your decision to stay in the sun too long.

When you cut your finger your foot doesn’t decide to stop walking because it’s not getting the same attention as it was.

Each member of the body is perfectly put together by God in order for it to function as God intended – for His glory.

Our fellowship should occur not just in a church service, but on a daily basis and in different arenas and formats.

Fellowship helps to cultivate and maintain an atmosphere of unity.

Unity is needed and essential for the body to continue to work effectively.

Unity enables the body to walk in the same direction at the same time.

Unity brings strength and love.

Out of our heart of worship and our love for God as a result of our relationship with Him, we should have a desire to see people enter the Kingdom of God – both here and in eternity.

The Great Commission was Jesus third command to us – to go and make disciples.

Being in relationship with God and fellowship with other believers is essential, but it is not the end of Christianity.

Authentic Christianity pursues discipleship out of love for God and obedience to His commands.

Paul said that our attitude should be like that of Christ Jesus.

His purpose was to seek and save the lost, to preach good news to the poor, to heal the broken hearted, to set free the captives, give sight to the blind and proclaim the year of the Lord’s favour.

So, how do we do this?

As a church, how do we progress forward and not only be authentic in our faith and our relationship with Jesus and the world, but how do we effectively function as the church?

The church can only exist as one body when people choose to be committed and sold out to the local church.

The global church exists as the body, also, but even then it is only going to be effective in bringing about the Kingdom of God as we walk in unity and selflessness, humbly before God seeking first His kingdom, not our own.

When we commit to the house of God, to the local church, we come under covering and under a vision that has been given by God to the local leadership.

Without vision, people perish.

Many visions cause division.

A house divided cannot stand.

No matter the obstacles, the kingdom of God still stands.

We are called to be salt and light to the earth – to a dying world in need of a saviour.

We are to compel people to know Jesus, but, in order to do this, we must first ourselves be compelled to love and worship Him.

We cannot honestly and sincerely compel people to know Jesus as Saviour if we ourselves are not totally sold out to Him.

A relationship with Jesus means that church is not business as usual.

It means that it’s not here comes Sunday, I think I might go to church today, unless I can’t be bothered getting up.

It means that we see Jesus more than we see ourselves.

It means that when we think about what Jesus said, we understand that when He said “Seek first the Kingdom of God…” He actually meant it.

It means that we don’t just give lip service to what we profess on Sundays or in front of other Christians.

It means that we honour God in all that we do, in each and every encounter that we have with anyone, from anywhere, at any time and in any place.

A relationship with Jesus and a commitment to the Kingdom means that we put the house of God in a position whereby it is not an optional extra or an alternative if nothing else is on.

It means that serving Jesus in the church is not a chore or beneath you, but rather it is an honour and a privilege to be able to be counted worthy of being counted part of His kingdom.

It means that we actually love our neighbour as ourselves – the way that we would like to be treated – spoken to, looked at, talked about, etc, would be the very way that we would treat others.

Not too many people would welcome a group of people sitting around criticising their lives and their choices in life.

Not many people would welcome a tirade of anger and bitterness and resentment being hurled at them at the top of their lungs in front of people or even in private.

Not many people would like to be stolen from, lied to, cheated, slandered, undermined, or judged.

Yet, in many of these things, we are guilty of doing them to others ourselves!

Jesus said, love your neighbour as yourself.

But, then He went further – Love your neighbour as I have loved you.

Sacrificially.

Unconditionally.

Humbly.

We can progress forward as a church by dying to ourselves on a regular basis and by seeking to be more like Christ.

We can be effective as the body of Christ in our corner of the world by walking together, by putting aside differences and seeing the Kingdom of God for what it is – God’s Kingdom, not ours.

The church is made up of people – you and I.

We are the church that the community sees.

We are the way that the church will progress and the vehicle through which the Spirit will bring growth.

We only have to be open, willing, humble and obedient and His Spirit will use us as broken vessels for His glory.

The church that God’s always wanted, the church that God sees should be the very same church that we see!

  • A radiant church!
  • A welcoming church!
  • A glorious church!
  • A safe church!
  • A house of magnificence!
  • A faith filled church!
  • A restoring church!
  • A life giving church!
  • An others focussed church!
  • A proactive church!
  • An entrepreneurial church!
  • An innovative church!
  • A church that displays the supernatural power of God!
  • A church that enables us to use our faith!
  • A church full of abundance and overflowing!
  • A church that is God’s healing agent to the world!
  • A church that honours the past, lives for today and builds for the future
  • This is the church that God sees and this is the church that we see!

Jesus said that He would build His church and that the gates of hell would not prevail.

He chose US to be His agents in this process – let’s live up to our call and our purpose!

PC300052And so it had begun.  We were married!  The beginning of the rest of our lives was right there in front of us…not in the distance, but right there and we were walking into it!

Kyls had spent weeks researching the perfect spot for us to have our honeymoon…all 2 days of it!  Kylie had to go straight back to work so we wanted something that would be secluded, quiet, beautiful and cosy.  We had found a lovely little eco lodge on a bluff in the Coffin Bay area that was nestled on 100 acres.  It was far from anyone and serene enough to meet our needs for the weekend.

We arrived at the lovely little lodge to discover that the man who owned the place actually had a house on there too.  And, not just on the same property, but his house was under the extension that he had built as his eco lodge…THAT WE WERE STAYING IN!!!!

To make matters even funnier, it just so happened that his bedroom happened to be directly under our bedroom and living area.  Nice.

Such a friendly host, the poor gentleman didn’t quite get any of Kyls’s hints that it was our honeymoon…he just kept coming back to visit with us!  He was such a talkative chap, it was difficult to get a word in and make our point clear.

HONEYMOON.

NEWLYWEDS.

SECLUSION.

2 DAYS.

NO PEOPLE.

Nope.  Didn’t work!  The lovely man thought that we might be hungry and so he, generously and kindly, brought us up 2 bowls of delicious, fresh, homemade mushroom soup, with mushrooms that he had picked that morning from the paddocks around the house, and hot, crusty bread.  It really was great, but we really did just want some space and time to ourselves.  Surely, that was understandable!

The space was nice…there was a small living/dining/kitchen area, kind of like a cabin in a holiday park, a nice bedroom and an open bathroon with 270 degree windows….great view…if it was as secluded as we had thought!

Kyls decided that since it was so cold and since we’d not really had the opportunity to have a proper shower at the hotel (they gave us no clean towels..go figure!) she would shower now…especially since it seemed that the friendly host had finally left us in peace.

Showered and dry from a just warm shower, just like most girls, Kyls needed to dry her hair…out came the hair dryer and out went the power.  We were discovering fast that our perfect little eco lodge really meant – little power, low temperature heating and housing below!

Somehow, from out of nowhere, our friend, the chatting host, appeared!  He informed us that a hair dryer used too much power and so, with the weather having been so overcast recently the solar panels weren’t fully charged.  Ergo, we didn’t have very hot water and we had a limited power supply!  No more hairdryer for Kyls!

What a funny start to our marriage and honeymoon!

Over the two days, we enjoyed creative meals (we had very limited supplies and the closest shops was 1 hour away – and it was closed because it was a public holiday!), spurts of time with no power and lengths of timw with power.  Fortunately, Kyls had brought with us all of the candle that were left over from the wedding which meant that at night time, we at least had some light.

The gas heater was fan forced and so relied on the electricity that did and didn’t work.  Our laptop was our source of music, running on battery power.  Our little sink was our washing tub and the line downstairs, near the hosts room, was our washing line!  Our lovely wooden posted bed made more sounds than an old door in a scary movie…and that was just when we walked in the room!  The balcony, however, had a sensational view. It overlooked a peaceful little bay and early in the mornings we heard and saw native birds on the rails.  It was very romantic when we thought about it!

We figured that God was just exercsing His sense of humour and extending ours…we had to laugh or we could have been devastated.  But, Kyls being Kyls, made every moment fun and enjoyable.  We had a great time together (in spite of the power going off more that 7 times (I think) in 2 1/2 days!  We were able to appreciate and enjoy the solitude (eventually) and each other for a few precious moments before we came back to full time reality!

When we finally did arrive home, we walked in to a beautifully clean and inviting house.  Friends had organised a beautiful meal and there were more gifts to open.  Kyls unpacked…in our house…her house.

We were married.  We were one.  We were together, in our own home, delightfully happy and content.  At last.

Thank God.  Kylie’s Psalm, her word from God had finally come to pass for both of us…

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.  Psalm 37:4

PC150032What do you do when you feel that life has all but passed you by and that all your hopes and dreams seem to have been both stolen or denied based on other peoples choices?

You keep the faith.  You look to the One who called you by name and knows your future and your every tear.  You remind yourself that there is a better day coming even though the storm clouds look darker than the night sky.  You call to mind the promises that God has given – both in His Word and in your personal walk with Him.

It’s no secret that the biggest tragedy of my life occurred just a few short years ago.  My life was suddenly turned upside down and tragically almost everything that I thought was solid in my life, everything that I held dear was ripped out from under me.  Opinions were created and manipulated by people who had a San Ballat spirit. 

I was at a place in my life where I thought that I would never again see the blessings of God in a way that I had seen and had imagined. 

After the move from my previous church, I worked in the fashion industry for some time all the while knowing that God had called me and anointed me for the ministry.  I was, all of a sudden, in a place that meant I had to put into practice many of the lessons and principles that I had preached over many years.  I had to determine in my heart if I was going to trust God with all that I had left and be totally surrendered to Him and His mercy or if I was going to be like so many others and just call the shots myself. 

I chose to do the former.  I chose to put myself into the hands of my loving Heavenly Father and I chose to believe that as I stepped out in faith He would not only pave the way for me, but that He would provide all that He had promised. 

In my willingness to simply serve God and do whatever my hands found to do, I was offered a job driving a truck of thoroughbred horses across the country.  For a man who loves horses, this seemed like a great opportunity.  That was until I had my lessons!  In spite of all my efforts, it became obvious that truck driving was not going to be for me. 

It was during this time that I received a call from the Executive of the South Australian AOG.  They invited me to take on a 6 month interim position at a church in Whyalla (where is Whyalla? I thought!).  In my spirit I felt God quietly, yet distinctly, say to me, “Ted, I wanted to see if you would be willing even to drive trucks for me”.  What an incredibly humbling and exciting revelation.

I found that Whyalla was not only 4 hours from Adelaide but that it was also classed as a desert space!  I was moving from the lush Brisbane lifestyle with my family to the dusty country outback where I knew not a soul.  What on earth was I doing and more to the point, what on earth was God doing?

I moved to Whyalla and my Dad joined me for the first few weeks (I needed someone to talk to!).  Within a few days I was overwhelmed with the realisation of the decision and the move that I had made.  I had not only left a beautiful place, but I had left all that I knew, all who had supported me and encouraged and loved me through my darkest hours.  I had also left behind my most treasured possessions – my boys, Kristan and Harry. 

This affected me dramatically, but my strength, as always, was found in God.  I spent many hours walking and praying and crying out to God, seeking His purpose for bringing me to this seemingly deserted and isolated place.  Very soon I was to discover that God indeed had a plan so much greater and sweeter than I could have ever imagined. 

I had met Kylie when I first arrived in Whyalla – she had set up the house that I was to live in and was partly responsible for bringing me to Whyalla as she was on the church Board.  After a few weeks of watching and listening, I asked her out for coffee.  She went on school camp and we spent the three days texting and getting to know each other.

When she returned, we did go out for coffee.  I told her all of the reasons as to why she should not be interested in me and laid out very clearly all the reasons why we should not pursue a friendship.  I was divorced.  I had 2 children.  I was bald.  I was 42.  I was a minister.  To each thing that I listed, she calmly smiled and told me that none of it was going to sway her from what God had spoken to her heart – I was the man that she had waited for – “the man that God would bring through the doors of a church”.

I was supposed to be in Whyalla for 6 months.  4 weeks into this, Kylie and I were developing a deep friendship and a growing respect.  I had not only fallen in love with Whyalla and the people, but I had fallen in love with a short, brown haired girl with a big smile and a huge love for Jesus. 

I had a miracle from God.  A bitter sweet miracle.  Bitter in that I missed my boys (and still do) terribly.  Sweet in that I had found a woman of character and strength who believes that her purpose is to love me – my soul mate.  That, knowing what I’ve been though, is a miracle of great magnitude.

“For I know the plans I have for you”, says the Lord.  “Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”

It’s not easy, but it is real and it is true.  God knows.  God cares.  God is faithful.