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SUNDAY MEETINGS are an exciting time for Christians.  It’s a time of adjustment from the weekly activities.  It’s a time of focussed worship and reflection.  It’s also a time of hearing the Word and a time of fellowship.
These ingredients are to not only bless the Christian but to impact and prepare the heart of a possibly unsaved person that may come through the doors.
Sunday meetings are a challenge in some aspects as they are designed for the Christian (Believers Service, growing and maturing the body) but also must be a place where the unsaved can find God.

Here are 3 aspects of a one and a half hour “Sunday Meeting”

1. Worship

Sadly, many Christians do not come to church in the right frame of mind.  There are numerous possibilities for this – from having a fight with the spouse to the kids playing up.  There are masses of distractions that have the ability to hinder a believer from walking into the facility with a heart full of worship and praise.
We, as the singers and musicians, assist people in coming into a meaningful dialogue and adoration for God.  To make it easy, we need the songs to be simple and to the point. Complicated songs and difficult phrasing sometimes work against the worship leader as the congregation is trying to get their lips around the tune and even the key of the song.  Worship lays out the “Red Carpet” for the communion message and the preaching of the word.  Worship softens the heart of those who do and even those who do not participate in the worship or singing.  Consider also Matthew 13:  “A wise man brings from his storehouse, treasures, little of the old and little of the new.”  Sing a new song to the Lord, but don’t discard the older songs.  You’ll keep the mature/older members of your congregation in harmony with your leadership.  It shows that you value them as important members of your congregation.  We must be generational.

A.  A scripture reading in a song service is very powerful, bringing the congregation to attention to the word of God.  A carefully chosen passage stirs faith and lifts the people’s hearts to worship God.  Getting their eyes on Jesus instead of their circumstances is the goal of every part of the service.

B.  A well thought out prayer brings the God factor into the mix of a service.  Our public praying needs to be powerful, fervent and Jesus centred.  Welcome the Holy Spirit!  Invite Him to be a part of the service.  Declare the Lordship of Jesus Christ.  Speak of His goodness and sovereignty. Proclaim the greatness and majesty of God.  Use the wonderful name of Jesus.  Always keep your heartfelt prayers based on the word of God. eg “It’s not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the Lord.”  Be yourself and pray from your heart.

C.  Let there be a time of silence – don’t be afraid of allowing a time for reflection.  After a minute or two of silence, you may like to encourage the prophetic gifts to operate.  We must not lose our Pentecostal distinctives and prophecy is powerful.  Pastors need to bring instruction for each expression of worship for the least experienced member of the church – it’s important that visitors are able to understand what is happening in a service.  Bring a brief explanation to the people of what is occurring. eg “Be still and know that I am God” can invoke great peace over the congregation.  Speak peace or even sing it over them – we don’t always know what our church is going through on the inside.

D. Include the Children in some way.  Maybe get a little one to sing a verse of a song or read a small portion of scripture.  Interviews are well received and kids love a microphone.

E.  Testimonies lift people’s faith levels.  This needs to be a deliberate part of the meeting.  Good leadership pre-empts the one who is testifying, and encourages them to keep it short and sweet.

F.  If it is the beginning of a school term, exam time or graduation time, bring all the students and teachers out the front and lay hands on them.  Our teachers and students need to know they are special and we care about what they are doing in their lives.

G.  Pray for the sick!  The power of the laying on of Hands must not be underestimated. Remember you are imparting God’s healing virtue.

H.  Keep the service multicultural, bringing different aspects of the cultures our wonderful friends from other countries into the mix and including a variety of people throughout the up-front rosters.  Hold an International Day or various other events throughout the year that focus on inclusivity.

I.  The time for announcements and offerings is light hearted and up-beat.  Welcome your visitors and ensure that you have something to remind them of their visit – a welcome pack with information about the church including a contact form is a great start.
Tithes and offerings: Share an encouragement on the heart of generosity. (Don’t push tithing down people’s throats week in and week out).  Remind people that God loves a cheerful giver, it’s better to give than receive, He gives seed to the sower, etc.  Then leave it up to them and see God bless the ministry and the givers themselves.

J.  The Communion message is our central focus and needs to be placed in high priority in the meeting.  We don’t need ‘throw away’ communion messages.  Three to five minutes is sufficient to bring home the powerful message of the Cross – forgiveness of sin through His shed blood.

2.  Sermons

The Pastor’s sermon must be seen as the key word of the Lord for the week.  Pastors must create this expectation in the people.  It’s Moses (the set man) going to the mountain and bringing that NOW WORD!  The altar call needs to be as powerful as the message itself.  We need to spend a lot more time on this aspect as it is a salvation, life and death moment.  Remember PASSION is the great persuader!

Make your sermons relevant and age appropriate – you might not be 25 years old, but your message doesn’t have to be 25 years old!  The Sons of Issacher knew the signs of the times and it’s important to be able to relate to your whole congregation.

Keep your sermons dynamic – utilise all the tools available to you.  Use media, sound, people and props if necessary to illustrate and bring home your message.  We live in a society that is visual and entrenched in media – let’s not miss the boat, but rather set the pace and lead the way.

3. Fellowship

Fellowship is as important as worship.  It is just as spiritual as any other part of what we do in our lives.  The greatest 2 commands that Jesus gave us are…”Love the Lord your God (Worship) and love your neighbour (Fellowship).
I believe that we need to be deliberate about this. Create an atmosphere of fellowship with light music playing, nice food, coffee brewing and strategically appointed people that have the gift of hospitality.  Additional extras – The room maybe dimly lit with a flat screen TV if possible showing a “Hillsong, Paradise, Edge or Planet Shakers” DVD.  If you don’t have access to this, have music playing in the background instead – it creates an atmosphere that fills an empty space in a room.

Conclude the meeting with a prayer of blessing!  Speak it over the people and send them on their way with an uplifted heart.  Let them know that you value them and that you value being able to bless them.
In Dueteronomy 28 talks about the abundant blessings of God; the prayer of Jabez says “Oh that You would bless me; Jacob wrestled with God -“I’m not going to let you go until you bless me”; Matthew 5 has the Beatitudes that talk about the blessings based on who we are.

All things considered, enjoy the journey.  In other words, “Serve the Lord with Gladness!”
Don’t take yourself too seriously.  Remember it’s a journey and it is God’s Church.  He said He will build it and He does.  We just need to be sincere, authentic and obedient to His call on our lives.

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“What the devil made for evil, God intended for good!” Genesis 50:20.

What do you do when your world falls apart?

How do you survive, overcome, and then recover the mandate that God has placed in your heart?

The call of God is a powerful thing.  No matter what you’ve gone through, God’s call never leaves.  It’s “His mandate” for your life.  You may make mistake after mistake and just like David in scripture, you may have disappointment after disappointment.  Grappling, scraping and crawling his way out of difficultly, sin and misjudgement, he has some key ingredients that we can learn from.

The call of God is that inner drive that doesn’t let up.  There’s nothing else that satisfies unless you are fulfilling that call.  It’s an insatiable desire to serve God in the capacity He has given you.

The enemy is constant in his pursuit of destroying your God given mandate.  The bible says, “When the enemy comes in like a flood God will raise up a standard.”  God will turn around the temporary derailment of your life and make what seemed to be a spent force into a fruitful tree again.  He restores what was taken and then doubles, triples and multiplies!  He increases what was so-called lost and breathes life into dead, lifeless bones.

I heard a phrase which encapsulates what I want to say: “Purpose driven to presence driven.”  This is a beautiful key in recovery.

No longer being driven by worldly ambition or success, but pursuing God and His mandate in a dependent, reliant way and at peace and rest in a God honouring way.

These kind of people are people who hunger and thirst for God’s presence.  A people who desire, hide and abide in that secret place (where the voice of God could be heard and His shekinah glory manifest).  The psalmist described it this way “dwelling under the shadow of the almighty” (no struggling, no striving).

These people are saints of God who taste the awe inspiring presence of God.  This type of person develops a NEW hunger for spiritual things and their spiritual taste buds begin to change.  These people arise from the oppression of pain and brokenness to become a person who prepares themselves for entering into God’s presence.  Hebrews 10:19 talks about “Having boldness to enter the Holiest by the blood of Jesus”.  Peter 2:5-9 “come into His Holiest by having cleansed and washed our souls and spirits in Jesus blood.”  God promises to wash us, cleanse us, speak to us, direct us and then He continues to draw us back to His original mandate for our lives.

The call that never leaves, that is relentless, constantly knocking on our door to get up and get back to that purpose and destiny.  That’s the mandate of God!

Sincere worship delights the heart of God.  As we worship, God promises the release of joy (Ps 16:11), strength (1 Chron 16:27), power (Ish40:29), liberty (2 Cor 3:17), transformation (2 Cor 3:18), refreshing (Acts 3:19) and boldness (Acts 4:13)

My encouragement to those who may have lost their way is “Stay on the bus!”  Get back to God’s purpose for your life, one day at a time.  As the old song goes, “Live for Jesus, that’s what matters.” Take your mistakes, disappointments, misjudgments, perceptions, and persecutions and turn them back to God’s plan and mandate for your life.  Keep the main thing the main thing.  Love and serve Jesus with all your heart then you will walk in His perfect plan again.

Ted EvansPsalm 139:14

I praise You for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…

Jeremiah 1:5

Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.

2 Corinthians 4:18

So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord.  And the Lord–who is the Spirit–makes us more and more like Him as we are changed into His glorious image.

I have been known to God since before my conception!  The same with you!

Every one of my days has been accounted for and seen by God – He knows me and has known me.

He created me – fearfully and wonderfully, to become glorious for Him.

The things in our lives, people, places, encounters with God and circumstances shape us.  Ultimately, though, who we are was determined before we were born.

There have been many situations, ups and downs , hurts and joys, successes and disappointments, in my life that have caused me to grow into and become the person that I am today.

Because of the circumstances of life in the past few years, I’ve heard it said of me:

“Ted is more understanding of people and more compassionate.”

“He’s less judgmental.”

I can agree with those statements as often there are things that we don’t fully comprehend the pain or the joy of unless we have been there ourselves.

I am more understanding.

I am more compassionate.

I am less judgemental.

I can identify with peoples brokenness.
I am more tolerant.

The thing is, this should be the case with all of us.  As we grow to become more like Christ, our lives and our attitudes should reflect that of Christ Jesus.

At the same time, as a result of what I have been through and what I have seen, there have been some other changes too.

I have little tolerance with manipulative, wishy washy, weak willed Christians that try to pull the wool over people’s eyes.

That may sound anything like what I have just previously said, but, hear me out.

I have become more loving and tougher at the same time.

I’ve become a stronger person and more decisive as a leader, knowing precisely what I want and what I want to achieve.

I have learned to rely on God when He is all I have and then at that moment, I have discovered that He’s all I need.

I have learned that tough times will either catapult you to God and to strength or you’ll go the other way displaying a victim mentality and weakness in your personality and character.

This type of weakness and victim mentality is always blame shifting!

It is always self focussed and ‘poor me’ in nature.
As a leader I have a low tolerance for bad attitudes, and the cavalier living of some so called Christians.

Jesus suffered and that’s putting it mildly in anyone’s estimations.

He was battered and bruised, He was beaten and bloodied, He was accused and taunted.

And for what?  For us.

And what was His response?

They led Him like a lamb to the slaughter…He was innocent and didn’t cry out for a pity party or pass the buck to anyone walking past.

He didn’t call out, “It wasn’t me!  It was Judas, he’s lying!”

He didn’t throw a tantrum.

He didn’t have a hissy fit.

He didn’t go around bad mouthing and slandering people and making up accusations.

No.

He went through it all and because of that He knows, He understands and He loves all the same.
I know what’s it’s like to be betrayed.
I know what it’s like to have people be disloyal to you.
I know what’s it’s like to be in deep depression and think suicidal thoughts.
I know the feeling of abandonment and what it’s like to be abandoned.
I know what emotional, physical and mental abuse feels like.
I know what’s it’s like to back slide and be spiritually empty.

I know what it’s like to be slandered and lied about.

I know what it’s like to be misjudged, misquoted, misinterpreted, perceived wrongly, and accused unjustly.

I know what loss is.
I know what it’s like to be emotionally, financially and physically bankrupt.
But, I know what repentance is!
I know what forgiveness is!
I now know God’s restorative power.
I now know His peace!

Love, forgiveness and acceptance.
These things are mine!

I know His grace!
I know how to pull myself out of the pits with God’s help.

I know how to lean on Jesus and how to keep my focus on Him.

I know how to depend on God – a strong fortress in times of trouble.

This is not me having a pity party or a poor me self expression time.

This is me, sharing with you, recognising how God has worked in and through my life and how He is causing me to be more like Him.

He didn’t stand for the Pharisees or the Sadducees of the day.

He didn’t take kindly to bad behaviour – but He did love and He did correct.

That’s what I’ve learned how to do better as a result of my experiences.
I think I now make a more understanding and capable pastor of people.
I’ve been there and can help others to come through their own life’s challenges.

I’ve not just come through, but I gained a life style of victory over self, sin and the world.

I have gained a stronger relationship with Jesus and learned that He is my source and my strength.

I have learned, and am continuing to learn, how to be content and how to trust in God with all that I have and all that I am.

Ted, Kristan and Harry EvansJeremiah 29:11

There are certain things I look at in people’s lives to encourage them.  Firstly we should acknowledge the good things that God has done.  Don’t dwell on the negative.  There’s too many of those!  See how God has been working in your life through people and circumstances.  Remember God is shaping and moulding us into His image.  The company you keep is important in shaping your mindsets.  If you don’t have a friend, be friendly the Bible says.

A selfish person will not acknowledge good in themselves or in others.  Everything is “whatever”.  The “whatever” culture and attitude is so prevalent in people today that it’s destroying hope for a future.

If you’re young, see your youth as being a blessing.  You have your whole life ahead of you.  If you are studying and others seem so far in front in their chosen career, remember this is a preparation time.  You are in a season of building your foundation.  Planning and studying is essential.  Remember, “You’ll have your day in the sun”.  Your time is coming so study to show yourself approved.

If you’re old and consider yourself a senior, thank God for the experiences, whether positive or negative.  The experiences you’ve had can help people as you offer yourself as support and encouragement.  Life’s journey is a gift to help others in giving people wisdom they desperately need.  This wisdom can be shared.  You can provide people with guide lines and instruction to assist them from making the same mistakes you made in life.  See everything as an opportunity for good.

There are so many ways we read our lives.  The perception of how we are going sometimes gets clouded and we need another viewpoint.  Maybe a close friend can bring home some positive truths about our lives.  Talk to a pastor with a sensitivity to your situation.

Pick yourself up and believe the simple truth that God is a good God and gives good gifts.  Trust Him with your future.  Never give up and remember God loves you and has you’re best interest at heart.

In my darkest hours I held onto what I knew was right.  My convictions and values made me stay the course.  Even though there were a few hick ups along the way, I kept going to church.  I lifted my hands in worship even though I didn’t feel a thing.  I prayed even though it felt like the heavens were like brass.  My attitude was taken from the scriptural principle that says “Put on the garment of praise for a spirit of heaviness”, “Though the fig tree does not blossom, yet will I rejoice in the Lord”, “I will” rejoice in the Lord and AGAIN I will rejoice!”

Keeping the consistencies in life was so important to me in the hard times.  Don’t run from your circumstances.  Don’t look for the bottle, drugs or the easy way out.  Face the issues and slowly pull yourself out.  Get help!  Talk to someone and pray.  Step by step, one thing and one day at a time.  Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day!

In many lives decisions have been made without counsel and research is the last avenue most go down.  Most people have made their minds up.  God hasn’t been consulted.  Pastors’ advice is not sought after and when all is said and done the pastor somewhere along the road has to pick up the pieces.

It saddens me to see people struggle and in many cases have their destiny cut short. For some, isolation subtly becomes a reality and a way of life.  Often church attendance drops away and we forget…WE NEED EACH OTHER!  If we keep to the fellowship of the believers, consistent and continual, it will keep many from falling.

Be a giver not a taker.  Faith gives when reason would say to hold on to everything you can get.  The mindset “everybody owes me something” is wrong and very selfish thinking in its nature.  The church owes me; the school should be doing this and that, the pastor should be visiting me.  People that flounder in depression are people that stay in a place of “it’s all about me”!  I, ME instead of OTHERS, and WE!  When we put in and give, we live more fulfilled and enriched lives.

Help someone, serve in the church.  Give of your time and resource.  Live for God and others.  Bake a cake, write a card, send a gift, a word of life to a struggling person.  Fill yourself up, by pouring out.  David encouraged himself in the Lord.

Sometimes the very things that we are doing are the things that will ultimately destroy us and our family.  Our selfishness leads to unhappiness.  We pursue things, careers and life style.  No one wins and God is not glorified.  Giving people are loved people.  Giving people are happy people.  Giving people are satisfied.  Giving people don’t live for themselves.  God first!  We’ve got to do things God’s way to get God results.  The true and best pattern is God’s pattern – everything else ends up in disappointment.  Live for Jesus and the things of this world will grow strangely dim.

Don’t sit helplessly in “camp containment” put on your armour, pick up your weapons and boot Satan out of your life.  The measure of your containment is directly related to how Christlike or un-Christlike you are in your daily responses to the people, events, and circumstances of life.

Let Christ be your standard in a world as busy and involved as it is.  People are bored and empty because they have devoted themselves and their lives to things that ultimately lack meaning and purpose.  The only way to fulfil your destiny is to take the first step and then next step and the next … as God leads.

Life is not about self-preservation, contrary to what the world would have us believe.

It’s not about self-gratification, self-satisfaction or even self-discovery.

It’s about living a life that is full and based on worshipping God.

Praise.  Honour.  Adoration.  Worship.

We seem to be able to remember old songs from yesteryear, jingles from adverts that haven’t been on for years, yet the church has forgotten it’s praise language!

The old saying that there is strength in numbers doesn’t fall short when we think about the gathering together of the saints.  The community of believers that join together, in one accord, in total unison, the church, the body of Christ, is given the assurance by God that when we dwell together in unity, He will command the blessing (Psalm 133).

Even when there are only a few, even just one or two, or even when there are many, thousands even, the presence of God is such that not only blessings can pour forth, but chains can be broken, walls can come down, burdens can be lifted and hearts can be restored, just to name a few!

God not only desires our praise, and not only is worthy of our praise, but He inhabits our praise!

To know that the Almighty God, Maker of Heaven and Earth says that He will inhabit our praises should stir us to shout, scream and holler His name and His praise!

At times we need to be still and hear the still small voice of the Lord, but there are times when it is absolutely necessary to shout the praise of God and to sing out worship that is due Him.  For too long the church at large has been ‘listening quietly’ and not singing out.

Paul said to the church in Ephesus, “Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit,  singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts.  And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:19-20)

The Psalms say, “There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.” (Psalm 46:4)

Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. (Psalm 4:23)

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. (Proverbs 23:7)

Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, “streams of living water will flow from within him.” (John 7:38)

Out of our heart, the depth of our being will come rivers of living water, waters of life and rivers that will make glad the Lord, as we are founded on and filled with Jesus and the Holy Spirit.

Out of our heart, a heart full of gratitude and love for what Jesus has done and continues to do for us, should come words of praise and worship.

Cries and utterances from our innermost being.

Psalms, songs and spiritual songs of praise to our God.

We’ve got to learn to sing in the Spirit again.  We’ve got to be able to break forth into praise and adoration in church – in a room full of people who all believe in the same amazing God.

It’s incredible to think that people are embarrassed and reserved and feel too self righteous to bring their praises to God in thankfulness.

Out of our hearts…

What is is your heart will come out…what words are you speaking out?

Are you singing the praises of God or of yourself?

Or, worse yet, are you speaking out negativity and jeopardising the work of the Lord?

We have to learn to break out of our own inhibitions and to press through in God.

Break through the fear barriers.

Break through the self control barriers.

Break through the apathy barriers.

Even when there are only a few people, a great sound in the Spirit can be made that can shake the foundations of darkness and sin and the hearts and lives of people can be transformed by the power of Almighty God.

The church and the world need to hear the voice of praise.

We’ve got to get our shout back – shout unto God with a voice of triumph, shout unto God with a voice of praise.

We’ve got to get our clap back – Clap your hands, all you nations; shout to God with cries of joy.

We’ve got to get our praise back –

Praise the LORD.
Praise God in his sanctuary;
praise him in his mighty heavens.

Praise him for his acts of power;
praise him for his surpassing greatness.

Praise him with the sounding of the trumpet,
praise him with the harp and lyre,

praise him with tambourine and dancing,
praise him with the strings and flute,

praise him with the clash of cymbals,
praise him with resounding cymbals.

Let everything that has breath praise the LORD.
Praise the LORD. (Psalm 150)

We’ve got to get our song back – Sing to the LORD a new song; sing to the LORD, all the earth.  Sing to the LORD, praise his name; proclaim his salvation day after day. (Psalm 96:1-2)

God’s word does not change – not now and not ever.

The commands to praise Him are as relevant and as necessary today as they were when they were written so long ago!

It’s so important for us to get back to pure worship – loving God and expressing our love through song and singing in the Spirit – the language that God gives to each believer as an evidence that they are filled with the Spirit.

Singing in the Spirit gives us the ability to worship God as well as edify ourselves as our focus shifts from ourselves to God – the only one worthy of praise and worship.

One of the most wonderful experiences that we can have is being able to sing in the Spirit, singing out of our Spirit-man words that can only be comprehended by our Heavenly Father.

Today, spend time singing in the Spirit.  Take the opportunity in church to sing in the Spirit and see how incredibly the Spirit of God moves as He inhabits our praises and is honoured in our worship.  Let’s not lose this mysterious yet wonderful gift given by God to His children.

PC150032What do you do when you feel that life has all but passed you by and that all your hopes and dreams seem to have been both stolen or denied based on other peoples choices?

You keep the faith.  You look to the One who called you by name and knows your future and your every tear.  You remind yourself that there is a better day coming even though the storm clouds look darker than the night sky.  You call to mind the promises that God has given – both in His Word and in your personal walk with Him.

It’s no secret that the biggest tragedy of my life occurred just a few short years ago.  My life was suddenly turned upside down and tragically almost everything that I thought was solid in my life, everything that I held dear was ripped out from under me.  Opinions were created and manipulated by people who had a San Ballat spirit. 

I was at a place in my life where I thought that I would never again see the blessings of God in a way that I had seen and had imagined. 

After the move from my previous church, I worked in the fashion industry for some time all the while knowing that God had called me and anointed me for the ministry.  I was, all of a sudden, in a place that meant I had to put into practice many of the lessons and principles that I had preached over many years.  I had to determine in my heart if I was going to trust God with all that I had left and be totally surrendered to Him and His mercy or if I was going to be like so many others and just call the shots myself. 

I chose to do the former.  I chose to put myself into the hands of my loving Heavenly Father and I chose to believe that as I stepped out in faith He would not only pave the way for me, but that He would provide all that He had promised. 

In my willingness to simply serve God and do whatever my hands found to do, I was offered a job driving a truck of thoroughbred horses across the country.  For a man who loves horses, this seemed like a great opportunity.  That was until I had my lessons!  In spite of all my efforts, it became obvious that truck driving was not going to be for me. 

It was during this time that I received a call from the Executive of the South Australian AOG.  They invited me to take on a 6 month interim position at a church in Whyalla (where is Whyalla? I thought!).  In my spirit I felt God quietly, yet distinctly, say to me, “Ted, I wanted to see if you would be willing even to drive trucks for me”.  What an incredibly humbling and exciting revelation.

I found that Whyalla was not only 4 hours from Adelaide but that it was also classed as a desert space!  I was moving from the lush Brisbane lifestyle with my family to the dusty country outback where I knew not a soul.  What on earth was I doing and more to the point, what on earth was God doing?

I moved to Whyalla and my Dad joined me for the first few weeks (I needed someone to talk to!).  Within a few days I was overwhelmed with the realisation of the decision and the move that I had made.  I had not only left a beautiful place, but I had left all that I knew, all who had supported me and encouraged and loved me through my darkest hours.  I had also left behind my most treasured possessions – my boys, Kristan and Harry. 

This affected me dramatically, but my strength, as always, was found in God.  I spent many hours walking and praying and crying out to God, seeking His purpose for bringing me to this seemingly deserted and isolated place.  Very soon I was to discover that God indeed had a plan so much greater and sweeter than I could have ever imagined. 

I had met Kylie when I first arrived in Whyalla – she had set up the house that I was to live in and was partly responsible for bringing me to Whyalla as she was on the church Board.  After a few weeks of watching and listening, I asked her out for coffee.  She went on school camp and we spent the three days texting and getting to know each other.

When she returned, we did go out for coffee.  I told her all of the reasons as to why she should not be interested in me and laid out very clearly all the reasons why we should not pursue a friendship.  I was divorced.  I had 2 children.  I was bald.  I was 42.  I was a minister.  To each thing that I listed, she calmly smiled and told me that none of it was going to sway her from what God had spoken to her heart – I was the man that she had waited for – “the man that God would bring through the doors of a church”.

I was supposed to be in Whyalla for 6 months.  4 weeks into this, Kylie and I were developing a deep friendship and a growing respect.  I had not only fallen in love with Whyalla and the people, but I had fallen in love with a short, brown haired girl with a big smile and a huge love for Jesus. 

I had a miracle from God.  A bitter sweet miracle.  Bitter in that I missed my boys (and still do) terribly.  Sweet in that I had found a woman of character and strength who believes that her purpose is to love me – my soul mate.  That, knowing what I’ve been though, is a miracle of great magnitude.

“For I know the plans I have for you”, says the Lord.  “Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.”

It’s not easy, but it is real and it is true.  God knows.  God cares.  God is faithful.

Is Your Head On Right?

My TedIS YOUR HEAD ON RIGHT? (Helping people help themselves)

Why do people get messed up with false doctrines, conspiracies, and end up confused and distracted in their faith?

It deeply saddens me and it concerns me greatly when good people are thrown off course.  Well meaning saints of God who have potential beyond their own understanding sabotage their future by silly thought patterns, ideas and beliefs they form from unreliable sources.  People take in the spin of others rather than the word of God in its true context being the foundation of their life.  People not under authority, not submitted!  People submitted means that they are SUPPORTIVE STRENGTH UNDER LEADERSHIP!

Some people are not accountable, doing their own thing, their own way.  These people God cannot use because they cannot be harnessed.  They have talents and abilities but unless you can pass the test of submission, they are just like a lightning bolt across the sky.

– Whatever they touch blows up.

– It explodes

– It sets on fire.

These people cannot be used for anything because their power is out of control!

People need a voltage regulator!

In my own experience there’s a frustration of wanting to reach out and help but knowing that my help will fall on deaf ears as people continue to do as people do.  And so the cycle goes on and on.  Crisis after crisis!

I want to give you signs of a person with their head on God’s way.

  1. They accept responsibility for their own behaviour and learn from failures.  They don’t repeat past errors (or repeat them easily).
  2. Are pleased to receive constructive criticism and are sincerely glad to have the opportunity to improve.
  3. Don’t expect special treatment.
  4. Meet emergencies and crisis with poise.
  5. Are not impatient with reasonable delays.  Realizes that the world runs to its own pace.  Expects to have to make reasonable compromise.
  6. Wins without gloating.  Endures defeat and disappointment with grace.  Tries to learn from every loss.
  7. Harbours no jealousy.  Are sincerely pleased for others when they enjoy good success.
  8. Are considerate of the feelings and options of others.  Are careful listeners.  Don’t become defensive, close-minded, and argumentative when discussing opinions.
  9. Plans for the future, rather than trusting the information of the moment.

Through right decisions and responses to scripture a pillar person becomes faithful and are vital parts of the house of God.

They are:

  1. Born Again.
  2. Water Baptised.
  3. Filled with the Holy Spirit.
  4. Faithful to corporate church gatherings.
  5. Faithful to connect groups.
  6. Joyfully give their tithes.
  7. Love to pray and worship God.
  8. Have a heart for winning their city to Christ.
  9. Vision for world missions
  10. Commitment to uphold family values
  11. Love for God that is expressed through all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, all your strength EVERYTHING!

This is what I believe makes up a mature Christian.  This is the person that will be sustained and successful in life.  Not confused, not distracted, and not taken up by sensationalism.  A person with their head TWISTED ON RIGHT!

oneLife doesn’t always go the way we plan.  Over the last few years I have experienced something that never in my wildest imagination thought I would go through.  Divorce is a killer and God hates it, but it’s a tragic reality that is in epidemic proportions in the world.  The stats say that 1 in every 2 marriages ends in divorce and 75% of second marriages end in divorce.

It has only been of recent times that I have been able to speak openly about my situation and how I have been able to dig and scrape myself out of the deep hole of rejection and pain that was brought about by divorce.  There is no other description that I can think of that can describe the immense emotional trauma that divorce brings into your life.

Children are the ones that suffer the most and the lawyers are the only people that gain from this destructive and devastating, demonic attack on our families.

I have a few brief suggestions on how I was able to overcome and get through.  I don’t think you can ever get over it completely but you certainly learn to live with it and in my situation God has given me an incredible wife that understands and loves me.  Kylie has shown unconditional love and companionship throughout this journey. 

Everything starts and ends in your thinking.

The bible says to cast down imaginations.  Bring into captivity every thought. Renew your mind daily. It is easier said than done but very possible in God.

1) Control. 

Control your mind and how you think so that you can interpret the situation and respond effectively to the crisis.  A crisis will reveal the true leadership and character in you.  True leadership plans and manages and does not lose control.  We are given the Holy Spirit to guide us and grow us – the fruit of the Spirit includes self control!

2) Opportunity.

Crisis is an opportunity to draw on potential. No matter what it happening, see it as an opportunity not the end of the world.  God gives us opportunities to grow, to overcome and succeed.  In short, He gives us the opportunity to become like Him and draw on His divine strength in every situation.  In this, He is glorified!

3) Perception.

Controlled perception is not denial, but how you think about your circumstance!  Rise above your circumstances.  Don’t allow your thoughts to become ‘victim’ in nature and a product of your circumstances, but control your thoughts so that you become self-controlled and maintain a positive outlook and attitude no matter what is happening in your life. (Don’t allow your thoughts to spiral downwards, take on the mind of Christ.)

There is no quick fix to anything.  But, give yourself time and remember your response to the situation is what matters.  Pick yourself up, give yourself a treat, shake of the self pity, look the crisis in the eye and say…”Today is going to be a better day”, “I will get through this”, “The sun will shine again”. 

Remember, every day is a better day and the best is yet to come!  Christ in me the hope of glory!